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date: 2019-08-18
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Growing up, I had a real problem with lying.

> There were reasons.

That doesn't mean it wasn't a problem. That doesn't make it right.

> It shifts more into the gray area.

Let's talk about dad later. Life began at high school, remember? We can talk about the kid who grew up to be born freshman year some other time.

> The problem with lying is often the problem of secrets. The only secret that can be kept is when only one person knows it, and even then it's not guaranteed.

Yes.

> And you got found out.

Yes.

> And it cost you.

Yes. It cost me friends. It cost me sanity. It made me jerk away from the path I'd started down. Made me jerk out of focus again.

> Let's talk about TIASAP.

<a class="pulse" href="/self-harm">Yes</a>.
