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@ -701,7 +701,7 @@ Yes. Matthew had died, and we were doing Thanksgiving together.
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It was nice.
\end{ally}
It was. He had come to the wedding, so the truth was out, as it were, about JD and I, though he surely had known already. During one of his prior visits to Fort Collins, he had invited me down to grab dinner with him in Lakewood sometime, saying, ``You can bring your\ldots{}ah, you can bring James with you, too.''
It was. He had come to the wedding, so the truth was out, as it were, about JD and I, though he surely had known already. During one of his prior visits to Fort Collins, he had invited me down to grab dinner with him in Lakewood sometime, saying, ``You can bring your\ldots{}ah, you can bring JD with you, too.''
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Tell me about `man'.
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In my life as a gay man, I believe I only ever really come out in an explicit manner once. I was in high school, in my first week of classes, and our counselors came around to our homeroom class to hold some getting-to-know-you exercise. This consisted of a lot of bored kids and one ``excited'' counselor asking us a series of yes or no questions and having us move to one side of the room for `yes' and the other for `no'. Being in a progressive town, I didn't expect to be the only kid to answer the question "Will you get married when you grow up?" with no, but sure enough, I was. I was feeling brave, so, when I was questioned about my response in front of the class, mumbled, "gay marriage is illegal, and I'm gay."
All of the other times I had to come out to family or friends, it was something assumed, or something hinted at. When I came out to my mom, I did so by leaving a book about gay teens and their stories on her stack of books to read. Coming out at work at my first job out of college was a matter of being "the one hired by the gay manager", and coming out at my second job was a matter of my relationship with James being included in a portfolio piece --- a data-visualization résumé about my life. When I \emph{officially} came out to you, I did so by inviting you to my wedding to James. Prior to that, although I assume it was common knowledge, it was unspoken.
All of the other times I had to come out to family or friends, it was something assumed, or something hinted at. When I came out to my mom, I did so by leaving a book about gay teens and their stories on her stack of books to read. Coming out at work at my first job out of college was a matter of being "the one hired by the gay manager", and coming out at my second job was a matter of my relationship with JD being included in a portfolio piece --- a data-visualization résumé about my life. When I \emph{officially} came out to you, I did so by inviting you to my wedding to JD. Prior to that, although I assume it was common knowledge, it was unspoken.
Needless to say, I'm not all that good at coming out.