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I have finally slept after three days without, and while it was only four hours or so, my mind has decided that it was enough.

This morning, Rav From Whence has brought me coffee and a simple breakfast of pastries from the refectory, and so now it is my hope that my body shall be able to once more feel like a home to me.

I sit now with her just outside my door. I have eschewed the garden and my Jonah plant as not quite what the day yet calls for, and so we have taken up familiar spots on a low stone bench that is well shaded by long eaves and an ivy-weighted trellis besides. We sit beside each other and each focus on eating a matcha-custard-filled croissant and drinking a mocha as we look out over the flagstone-paved court, the two doors in the matching adobe building across the way --- one green and one blue --- that houses yet more who have chosen to live here for a while or forever.

We sit in silence and think our thoughts. I know not what my down-tree is thinking, but I am thinking a feeling that occasionally strikes me towards the tail-end of overflow. I am thinking about how it feels like my soul has been kicked from my body, has been left some small distance away, or perhaps not so small, and, as the fire of dissociation burns slowly lower, I am reeled back in by the rest of the world, back to the home that is my body, this form that I have chosen and honed.

Soon, I think, I shall no longer be quite so much a Platonic idea of a self and then also this body, one supposes, and instead be whole. I am being reeled in, bit by bit, closer and closer, and soon\ldots{}

``What Right Have I?''

My reverie splits and crumbles away. ``Yes?''

``I have been thinking of something that you said a few days ago.''

I wince. I know that I have in the past uttered small cruelties when I was so divided. ``I was overflowing and--''

She chuckles and holds up her paws, shaking her head. ``No, no, I know that. You are alright, my dear. It was not a bad thing. It was a reminder.'' Her smile grew wry as she added, ``It is rather silly, actually. All you said was that you miss Michelle.''

I linger a moment in silence, wondering at how this lead that is reeling me back in must be tied to every nerve in my body, because I can feel the way the last bite of pastry seems to be lingering in my teeth, and the heady, almost savory scent of matcha lingers in the back of my nose. I can feel the warmth of the mocha through the drinking dish held now in both paws.

Why do these senses make themselves known now? Why do I feel a tingle on my neck as though my hackles are raising?

``I do miss her,'' I say at last. ``I am\ldots ah, I have been thinking about her rather a lot of late, yes?''

``As have I. I cannot imagine why.'' She smiles, a weary expression, existentially tired, but not defeated, I am pleased to see. ``I have been thinking of what you said because I have been thinking, also, of my reaction to both events. Both her death and the Century Attack. I have been comparing the two.''

``They seemed\ldots ah, they seemed quite different to me,'' I say after a moment spent thinking back.

``Did they?''

I blink. ``Did they not?''

``I am not so sure, no. Or, rather, their presentation may have differed, but the core reaction, what I \emph{felt--}'' She taps a fist against her chest. ``--was more similar than I know what to do with. I do not know whether it is a good thing or a bad thing. I do not know whether I like it or not.''

``Well,'' I start, reaching for some way to engage with this that will not kick me back further from this ground. ``From what I saw, in both cases, you\ldots ah, you found what needed doing and did it, yes? And in both cases, what needed to be done was to offer the emotional support that a spiritual leader such as yourself must.

``After Michelle quit, you saw to the spiritual needs of those in the clade who\ldots ah, who desired such. You worked until you ran out of energy and then you collapsed in tears.'' I smile faintly. ``Or so you have told me.''

Her smile is faint, too, but she nods.

``And the same is\ldots ah, it is also true of the Century Attack. You ran around that first night on the top of the hill, and you forked so many times over that I lost track so that you could\ldots ah, so that you could speak with so many different people, yes? You did that all night and well into the next day, and then you fell to tears.''

``Yes. And in both cases, I oscillated back and forth between those poles until I found a new level. I am no longer the From Whence who walked up the hill on New Year's Eve any more than I am the same From Whence who stepped with you to Michelle's field.''

I get in a lapping sip of my mocha while she speaks, and smile when she finishes. ``That is the way of changes, is it not?''

She nods. ``But come, you have said that the two looked different to you, and then you have listed the ways in which they are similar. What are the differences, my dear?''

``Yes. Those were perhaps the core things: the helping, the grieving, the\ldots ah, the becoming of someone new. I suppose it is the last, though that is apparent to me. After Michelle quit, you were\ldots ah, well, you focused on the immediate and the personal. I know that you have lost those that you were close to in the Century Attack, but the loss of Michelle was\ldots mm, well, it was so immediate, was it not?''

From Whence bows her head, and I suspect that we both feel a tug in our chests of a grief nearly a century old and still unresolved.

I continue. ``With her loss, you dove into grief. With the Century Attack you dove into work. With her loss, you\ldots ah, you asked yourself, I think, what you should feel. With the Century Attack, you asked yourself what you should \emph{do.}''

``Yes,'' she murmurs, nearly a whisper. She seeks out one of my paws with her own, and though I have to shift my coffee to the other, I readily rest my mug-warmed pads against hers.

``Tell me what\ldots ah, what similarities you felt, Rav.''

She looks not at me, nor out across the flagstone courtyard as she had been before, but down to her knees, down where she hold her drink in her lap. It is some time before she speaks.

``Both made me feel small,'' she says. ``Both made me recognize how little control I have in and over my life. I spoke with Michelle a handful of times in the year leading up to her death, and there was a whiff of what was to come on her in that time. After Qoheleth was murdered, the tenor of our meetings shifted and I became sure of it some months before she did at last die.''

I flinch.

``I know that you do not like that language in relation to her, What Right Have I. I will not apologize for it, because it is important to me that I acknowledge this as a death in order to mourn her. I speak her name every year in October, just as we speak the name of any of the dead.''

My body pulls greedily at my soul, draws it ever nearer. It is curious to me that it do so, too: I am so used to the way this topic can be so fraught. I am so ready to fly from this bit of my past. It slips so easily between my self and my Self and wedges them apart.

Now, though, coming off this week of overflow, my identity craves instead unity, and perhaps that is overriding my usual hesitancies.

``I know,'' I say after a moment of wrestling these feelings down to a manageable level within me. ``It is\ldots ah, rather, the language is not wrong, either. She is dead, yes. She died, and we mourned her loss as we would any death, and her memory is a blessing to us. I am\ldots ah, well, we have been over my feelings.''

She chuckles and gives my paw a squeeze in her own. ``Yes, but now we are talking about the ways in which these things are similar, are we not? Michelle's death and the Century Attack? And so now we must once more speak in terms of death.''

``I suppose we must.''

``Yes. In both cases, I was confronted with death. And yes, the scale was different. The emotions were different. I grasped at what I could, then, and held tight to my control. You know perhaps as well as I do the strain of trying to maintain control of oneself, but in both cases, I could not do it.'' Her gaze seeks elsewhere. It drifts away from her lap and away from me, though it points at nothing. It is a concealing shift, a hiding of her gaze from me, undirected but for to escape. ``I crumbled, my dear. In both cases, I could not do it. I could not hold on. I crumbled.''

There is a nuance here that I struggle to latch onto, just as my body, my physical being, struggles to latch onto my soul, to reassociate after so much dissociation. I hesitate to voice this nuance and must turn my words over several times in my mouth --- seven times seven times, I was told, though I never manage quite so many --- before I say, simply and directly: ``I did not know.''

She shakes her head, and I do not know if she is smiling or if her face is contorted in some other emotion. ``I have never spoken of it so plainly, my dear, because I have never had plain language for it, not until recently. Instead, I have said that events such as these spark overflow or that they have made me feel wrung out. I have used metaphors and circumlocutions, I think, as we all do.''

``Yes,'' I agree most carefully. Even my clearest attempts at writing --- and I know that this is not one --- will need disentangling from an editor. ``Tell me of crumbling, then, if\ldots ah, if you are comfortable.''

``Of course, What Right Have I. I trust you perhaps above all others.''

I bow my head, bashful gaze focused on the last remnants of whipped cream on my mocha.

``After all, that is what I have been thinking about most these last few days. You said that you missed Michelle, and what flashed to my mind was the argument that we had immediately after she quit. I argued that she should have a funeral and you argued that she should not. I argued that she had died, and you argued that she cannot have, not truly

``I know that you left, then, and I know that it was out of your own pain-- no, I do not fault you, and I will reiterate what I said when you returned, that I love you and that I have faith that both of our readings can be true.''

I nod in thanks, pleased that she cut me off. There is an itch on my pawpads, and it is not a real one.

``\emph{And,} it is that argument that was a brick removed from the foundation that led to me crumbling. I mean only to share, there is no accusation in me.'' She turns at last to face me, and her eyes are bright and her expression is dire and her voice yearns. ``We fought about this most terrible of things. The things that I was feeling that moment were some of the worst I had ever felt, and yet you reached for something that I could not. You, who are a version of me that I cannot be. You were so bitter and so cutting in your logic that I could not understand. We both wept because we did not understand what was happening and how it was that we not being understood.''

I sniff at a sudden cloudiness within my snout, look away. I am not sure that I have it in me to think in words, to speak. My body clutches desperately for my soul and I cannot speak.

The sound is echoed by From whence, but she continues, still watching me. ``I stand by many of my feelings, What Right Have I. I stand by my understanding that she should have had a funeral. During that argument, though, and after, I realized that I, that Rav From Whence Do I Call Out, that I had lost my grip on the situation, had fallen into a despair that gripped me in turn. Instead of thinking of the clade, instead of even thinking of myself, I thought only of optics the read of the situation. I did not think of what it was that I needed. I did not think of what the clade needed. I thought of what would be best for the clade to need. My despair latched onto this and then whipped around me and pulled me under, an I lost my grip on everything.

``I spun myself into pieces after you left, What Right Have I. Both times, with Michelle and with the Attack, I spun myself into pieces. I love you, it is okay. You left to perform a sort of grieving that I was unable to both times. Yours was not that of a rabbi, and it certainly was not that of a rabbi struggling to be a leader. I am sorry, What Right Have I. I love you. My grip on myself failed and I fell to pieces and stepped away from my duties. I was so small, and I did not have you. I love you. I am sorry. I am so sorry.''

We weep.

On the day that Michelle summoned us to her field, I was not expecting that which I received.

I was expecting that perhaps she would seek input from us.

I had heard so little from her over the years. Early on, I believe that this is because she was doing better: complication had filtered out of her life and while, yes, she had her bad days, she was most often content, and at times even happy. She was doing fine and I had my work ahead of me, and so I did my work and she enjoyed the comfort of an uncomplicated life.

Later, I had found my pace in life, and my path, and this was a path and pace that interested her very little, as she admitted to me during one visit to Beth Tikvah. There was joy in her, to be sure, at having this part of her past recognized, cherished, brought to the fore, but she was most of all happy for us to have this thing, while, for her, it remained a thing in the past.

It was not until much later in life, toward the end of the 23rd century, that I once again started to see her with any more frequency, though these meetings were often defined by the question of pain.

She sought out Rav From Whence and I at one point to discuss her inherited faith, what it had to say about suffering, what it had to say about grieving. We spoke of Job and his woes, his wish to call God to account. Why was it that he was caused to suffer so? What, also, did the interpretations of this text have to say about what it was that he went through?

Rav and I explained to her the interpretation that we had come to lean on, that it is about the complexities of the world, that one will never get an explanation for every pain they feel; that it is about the maintaining of a forward progression through life without interest in reward and punishment; that it is, in the end, a story written thousands of years ago, and the world does not stay one thing for one year, never mind many thousands.

She then summoned more from the third stanza, those of us who delved deep into spirituality. We brought before her Unknowable Spaces, who spoke about grief and the ways in which it interacts with the soul, the spirit, and the self. Unknowable Spaces brought with her a friend who had been a doctor phys-side, who spoke to the ways in which suffering interacts with the body.

I, who linger long in the tail of overflow, think much on grief and suffering. The me who feels still unheard, who feels still abandoned is the one who thinks back to these months and years leading up to an ending and wonders: if we are the part of HaShem that was made to suggest Their immortality, to point at it apophatically with our beloved, beloathed death, the part who \emph{insists} on Them, then why do I still feel abandoned? I have read my Job. I have read my Qohelet. I \emph{know} that the world is more complex than perhaps even the Artisan who made it can say. And still, I watched my root instance suffer, suffered along with her. I watched her quit. I watched the world stumble, fall, and pick itself back up again, bleeding and lessened. I have observed these things, have lived through them, and wonder who is listening?

When Michelle spoke of heaven of hell, of paradise and eternal conscious torment, I cried. Many of us cried! She looked only tired. Unknowable Spaces recited for her a quote from Rabi'a al-'Adiwiyya al-Qaysiyya:

\begin{quote}
O God! If I worship You for fear of Hell, burn me in Hell\\
and if I worship You in hope of Paradise, exclude me from Paradise.\\
But if I worship You for Your Own sake,\\
grudge me not Your everlasting Beauty.
\end{quote}

I cried yet more and spoke of the ways in which the Jewish view of the afterlife changed over the millennia, how originally there was \emph{Sheol,} that place of darkness and rest and eternal sleep, and then, as the Jews collided with other cultures, this began to lean towards thoughts of paradise, and with that thoughts of some cruel inversion. I spoke of how we --- those who had shepherded the New Reform movement into being, yes, but also so many other Jews besides --- had drifted around a loop from ever more complex views of the World to Come, of the Kingdom of Heaven, of heaven and hell themselves, and made their way back down into the most simple explanation of all: eternal rest. Eternal sleep. Eternal nothing. Our \emph{olam haba} was not a thing we lived, but those who came after. Our \emph{tikkun olam} was to benefit those not us. Even those of us who had uploaded and who would, they promised themselves, never die, there was still the potential for death, and after, naught but rest.

I asked her to consider Qohelet --- the teacher, not he who was a part of her --- and his gentle admonition to consider the ways in which one strove as well as the ways in which one suffered in the face of so much rest to come: \emph{Whatever it is in your power to do, do with all your might. For there is no action, no reasoning, no learning, no wisdom in Sheol, where you are going.}

From Whence said, gentling my words, ``We are all to strive with an eye to the betterment of all, for we are all \emph{b'tzelem Elohim,} made in the image of God, yes? We live into praise by caring. But you must consider that, if you are \emph{b'tzelem Elohim,} that includes \emph{you,} my dear. Treat yourself with grace.''

I cried so often before her. Every time I saw her, I cried.

This was me. This, this aching and broken woman before me, before us, was me. We were her. We were her remade into new wholes.

Why could she not be remade? What kept her so broken, so aching? Why, O Divine Author, was her story one of misery, in those final years? Were You not listening? Could you not bestow upon her a touch of order? Would that I could have. I tried, but\ldots would that I could have.

And so when she summoned us that awful day, I expected other than what I got.

I was expecting that perhaps she had words to say about Qoheleth, about his rise and fall, about how it was that \emph{she} felt about his assassination. Were it someone within the clade who had organized this --- and none had ever come forward --- then ought we not find a way to discuss paths forward?

I was expecting perhaps, in some roundabout way, reconciliation. Her with her clade, the clade with itself, all of us with the world in which we lived.

How naïve I am! How foolish I was to hold such hope!

I held within me an expectation that the broken one would fix those who were whole. I was ever a dreamer.

Thus, when she asked us to merge down, when I began to understand what it was that she was doing, I cried. I wept and tore at my garments. I tried to keep it to myself, but in the end, I collapsed to the grass, curled into as tight a ball as I could, with my snout all but tucked into the ground as though I could shield myself from what I now knew must be coming.

Where was Their staying hand?

Rav From Whence bade me look up just in time to see her disappear once and for all from existence, and we said ``\emph{Baruch atah, Adonai Eloheinu, melekh ha'olam, dayan ha'emet,}'' the announcement of a death, and returned to our synagogue.

There we fought, and bitterly, as to whether or not this occasioned a funeral. Rav From Whence argued for yes, for the funeral was for the people, not for the dead, and I argued for no, because the funeral was also for the dead, and she could not be, for we lived on. This discussion was old and tired, for we had debated this for nigh on a century. Was the quitting of a cladist a death or something else if the clade lived on? Did the manner of quitting matter? If they quit of despair, was that suicide? If they crashed? If CPV claimed them? It was our evergreen \emph{halakha} to argue, just\ldots never in so immediate terms.

I stepped away and did not return for thirty days, preferring to sit in my half-\emph{shloshim} while wandering, overflowing, believing now that she was dead, now that she was not, feeling now a sense of spiritual ecstasy, now a sense of abandonment. I asked a million billion trillion times why we suffered, why \emph{she} suffered --- and whether or not HaShem replied, asked a million billion trillion times again, ``Look, I am worthless. What can I say back to You?''

When I returned for Shabbat, I asked Rav to give me some space from the topic. I said my \emph{Kaddish} and always put off the topic of the funeral until she stopped bringing it up. After all, as Wakefield put it,

\begin{quote}
There are ways around being the go-to person\\
even for ourselves\\
even when the answer is clear\\
clear like the holy water Gentiles would drink\\
before they realized Forgiveness\\
is the release of all hope for a better past.
\end{quote}

I rely, I think, on the words of others because I do not know. If there was a funeral, I did not attend, and if all that had once been her did not --- or did not even \emph{know} --- if all that was her was not there also in the grave, did it truly take place?

Rav and I spend half an hour trying to calm down. We lean on each other and hold paws and cry until the tears had passed and we were able to rest our heads temple to temple in silence for another five minutes more.

It is me who breaks the silence, voicing a thought that I had turned over in my mind far more than seven times seven times in our period of silence. ``I have not seen you like that in\ldots ah, well, not in a long time, my dear.''

She sits up and turns slightly, enough to bring her knee up onto the bench with us. ``Yes. I am perhaps managing my own overflow, just as you are. It has been a heady few weeks. The last few days in particular have had me cycling over some thoughts. I usually keep those managed around you.''

``Why?''

Her answer is ready, and I know from my experience as an Odist, from \emph{being} her, that this portion of the conversation is one she has been mulling over and scripting for some time. ``Because you are empathetic, and so we bounce quite easily off each other. When I am overflowing, you know already, and we speak quietly and take from each other that which we need. From you, I take stability, and from me, you take support.''

``Are you, then, really in\ldots ah, in so much pain when you overflow?''

``Are you not?'' she counters, a wry smile on her face.

I return it, but faintly so. ``I see. I am apparently unable to hide that, yes?''

``And I am not surprised by this. You forked from me with the goal of being the one who took off the mask, yes? My responsibilities were piling up. I had taken up leadership at Beth Tefillah, and already the seeds of an idea of what would become Beth Tikvah were germinating in my mind. I was working with True Name and her ilk to coordinate with religious communities and deal with the Israeli crisis. I was succeeding at all of these things, while also feeling like I was in some way applying layer after layer of paint over my identity to lock it into a certain way of interacting.''

I wince. ``I do not remember that\ldots ah, I do not remember it fondly, no. I know that you find joy in these things, but, to torture your metaphor, I spent\ldots ah, I spent perhaps longer than I care to admit stripping those layers of paint away and reshaped myself in the process, yes?''

``Of course. Please be ever yourself, my dear,'' she says, chuckling. ``Both when it comes to torturing metaphors and when it comes to becoming who you intended to be.''

I do my best to give her a prim, proud smile.

She laughs, leans over, and brushes some stray strands of mane clear of my face. I master the urge to flinch away and squint my eyes shut. She has done this often enough that I know to merely hold still. It is pleasant, yes, though paws near my face can be so anxiety-inducing.

``Rav?'' I ask after a few minutes.

``Yes?''

``I do not\ldots mm, rather, how do I look back at the Century Attack and find in it anything but a curse?''

She gives me a queer look, head tilted slightly to the side. ``Are you looking for aught else?''

I fidget with my coffee before eventually just waving away the cup and the dregs within. It is a struggle to frame my question, as I have just come out of the worst of my overflow --- and Rav From Whence helped me greatly through it, as she always endeavors to do --- and it would be so easy for me to speak this only to find that it is yet more of this overflow lying beneath the surface.

When I voice this fear to her, she smiles and rests a paw on my knee. ``With that caveat in mind, then, perhaps you can try again? I would like to understand.''

``Very well. I will try. How do I\ldots ah, how do I look back at the Century Attack and see anything other than us having been abandoned by HaShem? How can I believe that\ldots ah, that They in any way hear us, now? That They are listening?''

She hums and rocks back a little, gaze drifting out into the courtyard. ``I can see now why you felt the need to offer that caveat.''

``You have\ldots ah, you have doubtless heard enough God-has-abandoned-me talk from me in the last few weeks to last you a lifetime.''

She chuckles and shakes her head. ``My dear, I will listen to you speak in overflow for months on end if it means that I can in any way help.'' She sits up straighter, then, and folds her paws in her lap, expression attentive and present. Would that it were so easy for me. ``To your question, though, the simplest answer is that I do not know. I do not know how one looks back on this most terrible event with anything other than a feeling of lack. How could the Creator have been present for so much destruction? How could humanity so easily destroy so much of itself and yet also be the works of God? I do not know, What Right Have I.''

I wilt. ``I suppose that\ldots ah, that it is not an easy question, no.''

``None of this is ever easy, my dear. This is the thing we must all come to terms with as religious people, yes? Your faith is not there to give you easy answers to hard questions or to explain away difficult things. It is there to provide you with a framework for grappling with those hard questions and difficult things, yourself. Even now, you use that framework when you do not say,''How is it that these people could have done this thing?'' and instead ask, ``Where was HaShem when this thing was done?'', yes?''

``Where was Their staying hand?'' I murmur, that line that so stuck in my craw over the last week that it had become a sharp point of focus in a mire of blurred emotions and words.

She nods. ``Our inherited faith in God is the lens through which you view the world. It is the rod by which you measure all things. You said some days ago that They were your `silent interlocutor' --- and, my dear, I love you for using such a word even in the midst of overflow --- and I know that you speak with Them so often throughout the day. It is important to you that you ask in this way, because it is by this framework that you may find your answer.''

I pluck at the linen of my trousers for lack of anything else with which to fidget, working to stay as present as I can as my body continues to inexorably reel in my soul.

From Whence watches me carefully, as ever she does, and, apparently seeing no signs of distress, continues. ``You use words like `abandoned' and speak of a doubt that They might in any way be listening. Your questions about reconciling belief and experience are borne of emotion, and so perhaps we had better ask whether or not direct answers to them are really what you are after.''

``What\ldots ah, rather, how do you mean?''

``If anyone were to know the hows and whys that HaShem might do this or that, it would be you, my dear.'' Her smile is kind, softening her words, smoothing out any sense of snark. ``And for such answers, even if you did not know them, you would turn to a book, I am sure. A book and your intellect. Instead, you ask a rabbi. You ask a friend.''

Despite the understanding that I have of her words, the way they speak to a simple truth without value judgment, I feel a burning in my cheeks, and I turn my face away from her.

``Tell me about feeling unheard, What Right Have I. Tell me about feeling abandoned. If what you need in this moment is not a list of verses, tell me why you cry out.''

``Very well,'' I say after a lengthy pause. ``Do\ldots ah, do you remember that story of a woman's father, how she grew up to hearing him say,''If HaShem is real, He is not welcome in my home''? How he would go to services and\ldots ah, and read the paper in his seat, only standing to say Kaddish?''

She frowns, nods.

``This is it. This is\ldots ah, this is the feeling that I am stuck with. I would never say such things, I think. I do not feel that particular type of bitterness. I will make my home a dwelling for the Divine. I will\ldots ah, I will pray more fervently all other prayers.'' Dissociation makes my world sway with these words. I laugh --- or cry, I do not know which. ``But this is still the feeling I have. I am perhaps not the father in this story, but the daughter: I am hearing time and again these things and\ldots ah, hearing them from some other part of me and struggling to discern whether or not I, too, believe them. Where was Their staying hand? What\ldots ah, what trust could I possibly have in a god who seems not to remember me? Not even to know me?''

``Do you know what you sound like?'' she asks after a few moments. Her tone is serious enough to forestall any sense of teasing. ``I am weary with calling; my throat is dry; my eyes fail while I wait for God.''

I offer a halfhearted chuckle. ``And here I thought that\ldots ah, that you were going to say Job.''

``That was my next choice. You have nicer friends, though, What Right Have I,'' she says, and I hear the grin in her voice. ``No, perhaps Lagrange as a whole is Job. We are all praying those psalms. You are not, I think, the only one crying out for deliverance.''
